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10 Qualities To Watch Out In A Woman Before Getting Married

by Kufre Ekpo

More often than not, a question of “What should a young guy look for in a woman” is usually asked. Sometimes, young men have a superficial list of things they are looking for when they are looking at a prospective spouse.

Firstly, It could be her physical appearance, or it may involve her financial status, or it may involve similar interests. These are not unimportant, but they’re not really the critical issues, are they?

We all know that there are no perfect human beings, we all have imperfections and we are all in pursuit of happiness. In the pursuit, we have family, friends, hobbies and we form relationships. When you are searching for the person who will join you in building a lifelong marriage, what really matters is a good character.

In this article, we will x-ray some of the things young men should be looking out for in women before they can leap into marriage.

1. Independent thinker

A woman who is opinionated and is able to make decisions on her own is attractive. It is even more attractive if she stands for what she believes in. Holding a mature and constructive conversation with such a woman becomes easy.

2. She is real

A real woman will not always agree with what you say and she will not always find anything you say funny. She is not pretenting at all.


3. She is focused and a dreamer

What is better than finding a life partner who is a dreamer and has goals to achieve? The determination and self-drive of a woman is something that men are attracted to.

4. She enjoys her time alone

Spending time together as a couple is crucial in a relationship, but spending time apart is equally paramount. Time alone allows for personal growth which again leads to a healthy relationship. A woman who knows that time alone is important is easy to love and reason out with.

5. She is not with you because of money

A man who is dating a woman who is not a gold digger will always appreciate it. A woman who is with him just because she loves him and enjoys his company doesn’t matter what he has. These are women goals for them.

6. She’s family and or friend oriented

Before I get heat from people who say that not everyone is close to their family and friend doesn’t make them a bad person or whatever that goes without saying. Let’s keep in mind that I speak from my own perspective and to me, a woman who values both her and my family is important when considering a long term future. Of course, no one should be penalized for coming from an abusive family. But the ability to make strong, healthy connections with others is critical.

7. She’s kindhearted

I’m not quite sure how to explain this one. I feel like just the word ‘kindhearted’ in it gets the point across. It depicts a woman who is thoughtful, loving and caring. Who does small things for you for no other reason that she loves you (as you do for her).

 A woman who when she smiles at you, gives you no choice but to smile back. It is a woman who radiates warmth from her heart. That is a woman a man would want to marry.

8. She’s intellectually challenging

There is no denying that someone’s looks are what initially draws us to them. It’s difficult to spot a great personality from across the room. Many a fling was built on physical attraction alone, but how long can it last?

When conversations lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together, but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with someone on that alone.

Being intellectually challenging and having the ability to hold real discussions about meaningful topics, will always trump shallow beauty in the long run.

9. She’s understanding and empathetic

Being compassionate, supportive, and encouraging towards your partner is a huge part of building a successful relationship. Nobody wants a person who is a “Debbie Downer” all the time and will not support them in their endeavours or their times of need.

 Life is full of challenges that any couple will face together, particularly a married couple. Sometimes men need a shoulder to cry on, too.

10. She’s ambitious

In addition to supporting and encouraging you to pursue your own goals and dreams, she will have her own as well. A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases after it with voracity. It doesn’t have to be a career, just something your partner is passionate about.

A mature woman will be someone you can take on the world with. A teammate in your relationship and in life.

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