There are a lot of things happening today in marriages that is causing many people the peace and harmony they once enjoyed as a couple.
An attack can come in any form and from any quarter. It can come from your extended families, friends or even you can become the problem in your home.
Knowing what to do to shield your marriage from attacks is the most important thing. If you don’t know what to do you might be heading towards divorce.
Here are things to do so as to protect your marriage
- Don’t listen to people
Truly, not everyone wants your marriage to succeed. Such people can come up with anything to destroy it. Whatever information you receive from a third party about your spouse should not be taken to heart so as to avoid acting strangely at home.
- Forgive generously
Marriage is the union of two forgivers. Let this fact be in your mind always. Forgive even before the hurt comes. Remember that you both are not perfect which will result in misunderstandings sometimes. You will do your marriage a lot of good if you don’t put issues to heart.
- Stop the blame game
Nothing will be gained if your spouse is blamed occasionally for any wrongdoing. Stop the blame game and don’t shift blame. Be ready to take responsibility for any wrong done and seek to sort things out amicably
- Put the children in their place
Children can be beautiful distractions in marriage if care is not taken. They are part of the family and not your marriage. The marriage contains two people that must make the family work. Don’t let them come in between you and your spouse. Let the children know that you both are one so that they don’t sense a hole and use that to come in between the both of you.
- Don’t hide anything from your spouse
There is nothing hidden under the sun. That particular secret you are keeping will definitely come to limelight and your spouse will be disappointed later. It is better to be open than to keep secrets.
- Don’t take each other for granted
Another subtle way an attack can come is by taking your spouse for granted. Don’t stop doing what you were fond of in courtship, but rather, take such actions to a new level in marriage to prevent attack
- Be intentional about communication
The best tool to prevent an attack in your marriage is that of effective communication. Don’t just talk but communicate; pass your information clearly to your spouse. When you communicate, wait for feedback.
- Handle financial issue wisely
Money must be handled with wisdom. Know what works better in your marriage. Agree whether to keep individual or joint bank accounts account. Don’t allow money to cause separation.
- Don’t allow third-party interference
Your parents, siblings, and friends are third parties in your marriage. If you allow them to always know what is happening, they can pose a threat to your marriage.
- Take the necessary steps to maintain peace
It doesn’t matter who is at fault. Always be ready to make peace because it is your home and you don’t have any other place to go. Quench the argument before it escalates.
- Always use the word ‘I am sorry
This word could look small but it is a very powerful tool to protect your marriage
- Have a listening hear
Don’t always talk without hearing your spouse. Listen not because you want to talk back but because you want peace to reign.
- Say ‘I love you regularly
You cannot exhaust ‘I love you’ by saying it to your spouse every time. The best way to show love is to verbalize it. Your spouse will always love to hear it from you.
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