What Every Lady In Her 20’s Should Know

-Kehinde Ayeotan

Love and honor your mother. Learn from her mistakes. As these will save you a lot of headache in your nearest future when you become a mother.

Get this straight,  you are more talented than you’ll ever know. You don’t need to sleep around with your lecturers, Boss or supervisor to get good grades at school or a promotion at work, your image matter most. A good name is better than silver and gold.  Burn late night candles; put extra time to study and practice until you master your skill. Hard work still pays well and does not kill.

Women can build a strong support network. Don’t let few ladies with “Pull Her Down” {PHD} syndrome discourage you from cultivating true relationship with your female friends. Move with people that can truly add value to your life that will help you whistle through life.

When a man you meet for the first time babbles about material things and how much he earns working for an oil and gas company and how wealthy he is, that is a red flag. He is either a married man with a sugar quoted mouth or a smooth-talker who just wants to sleep with you or he is childish. Walk away from deceit.

Make your own money. Start small, keep on doing what you love doing. Maintain a stable bank account. It will keep you out of trouble and from deceitful men who are moving about looking for females to”shop and clean mouth”.

When you meet your Soul mate, don’t forget to wear your most priceless ornament be submissive and humble yourself before him. Don’t let what you have acquired turn you to an article of”pumpulism”. But while waiting for him, don’t cling to any man to rescue you. Some men these days are also seeking for who will rescue them.

Know your body. Look at yourself in front of a full-length mirror at least once a week, Unclad and after clothed. Know your body and how it works.

Life is a gift. But to revel in it, you must be ready to put a lot into nurturing your gifts/ talents and skills. Start early and sky will never be your limit.

Teenage age starts from 13 and ended at 19. Clocking 20 means doing away with childish behaviour and you are preparing to shoulder some responsibilities.  But that does not mean you should forget to have fun. Catch fun with your friends, laugh with them because the more you laugh the more you get younger and look fresher.

Learn the basic skills and let yourself grow- from how to keep your underwear clean, cook, socialize, and network because Partnership builds bridges. Don’t ever forget that.
Don’t do Drugs, It kills. Read books, it fortifies. Dance as often as you can, it liberates your spirit, soul and body.

Eat healthy food, learn to cook for yourself.  Don’t be an indomie girl who relies on noodles alone. Practice the cooking skill you learn from your mother as this will help you in future when you get to your husband house.


Fear of the future, it is a state of mind you must learn to tame. Don’t let fear pull the carpet from under your feet. The Holy Books tells us that God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.

Let go of past hurts. You cannot move forward if you keep looking back. Holding on to bitter experiences and regrets will stale your future. Learn to exhale, love deeply and be kind to others, don’t make anybody a victim of circumstances.

Prayer is the master key. Have faith in God and always have the courage to use your voice wisely. Dream big today. Fear simply means False Evidence Appearing Real. Enjoy the highs and lows that come with being in your 20s but don’t be afraid to grow older. Live life to the fullest and don’t forget to smile always!

Don’t give up when you fail. Life is all about risk keep on trying. I’ve found out that nothing in life is worthwhile unless you take risks. You will fail at some points in your life, accept it. You will lose, you will suck at something there is no doubt about it. If you don’t fail you are not even trying. Thomas Edison conducted 1, 000 fails experiments it was the 1, 001st that he succeeded in making the light bulb
Every fail experiment is one step closer to success. You’ve got to take risks. Some times it’s the best way to figure out where you are going.

There is an old saying” if you hang around a barbershop long enough sooner or later you are going to get your hair cut”. To get something you never had you have to to do something you never did. You’ve got to give it everything you’ve got. Whether it’s your time, your talents, your prayers, or your treasure.
Never  be discouraged, never hold back, give everything you’ve got, while it maybe frightening, it will also be rewarding because the chances you take,  the people you meet, the people you love, the faith that you have, that is what is going to define you. See you at the top.