3 key steps to overcome a betrayal
Each person who has had to face a loving disappointment due to betrayal knows how hard it is to overcome and move on. After all, many thoughts arise and various feelings that cause low self-esteem are immense. But, life still has many good things to offer and moving forward is the best step.
In this walk some attitudes are primordial for the success and overcoming and they can include:
1. Eliminate guilt
Every person who is betrayed seeks the reason for this event. She conducts an internal research into her attitudes, visions, and relationships, trying to find what might have caused the spouse’s slip. It is very important to understand that people are free and their choices belong to them. When a betrayal occurs, it is because the spouse chose this and not for any other reason.
And if he accuses the person betrayed by his mistakes, probably in addition to being a traitor, he is abusive. It is very important for overcoming that the betrayed person understands this and stops feeling guilty, regain their self-esteem and move on, with the spouse or not, aware that if the other betrayed was because they have some problem with himself.
2. Change focus
The tendency is to think about the event and the misery itself all the time. This should be avoided so that the overcoming is total. Negative thoughts will only harm and curb personal progress and can bring diseases like depression. Finding a way to occupy the mind, beyond work and family responsibilities, will be effective for rapid improvement. Something as a volunteer service, a pleasant hobby involved with arts, sports or the study of something new.
Social networks do not enter into this listing since intense involvement with them in such a delicate situation can destroy self-esteem even more. The future possibilities are immense and life does not have to be sad for the happened. Mourning will surely come and it will have to be past, the better it will be when there is interest in living happily despite problems.
3. Friendships
It is very important that they be preserved, retaken and initiated. We are human beings and all need each other for survival and happiness. Staying closer to parents, siblings and other loved ones will do very well. Going out, going out, meeting new people, going to new places and going back to the old ones that always pleased, smiling and having fun with friends, this step is very important for the overcoming to be effective.
If the couple opts for separation or for continuing together, these 3 steps will be critical to overcoming. When directed to the chosen goal they will become a mainstay for the continuation of life and rebuilding of the injured spouse.
It will be up to both to define what is best and once decided they should keep the votes so that trust is restored and the relationship of the two does not make their lives unpleasant. Together or apart, especially when there are more people involved as children, they should do their utmost to forgive and move forward with a light and resolved heart.
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