By Bisi Adewale
Having been in counselling ministry since 1999, actively counselling thousands of Singles, Married, Men and Women in their numbers, I can say without doubt what the problems of people in marriages are all about. Today, I will be talking to women.
I discovered what I see as the 3 major mistakes of women in marriages that make marriage difficult for many of them. Many women are struggling in marriage, many women are finding life difficult in their homes, let me explain here three major mistakes they are making.
FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND MARRIAGE: Lots of women in marriage do not understand what marriage is all about. Some thoughts marriage is a way to get someone to pay their bills hence they went into marriage with the highest bidder. Some assumed that marriage is a way to escape from their assumed wicked parents, hence they went with the sweetest toasters.
I want all women to know this and make good use of them if they want to build great marriages and solid homes
— Marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100 giving from both sides involved.
— Marriage is not I, Me, Mine and Myself: It is ‘Teamwork’. It is a collective work, it is a union.
— Marriage is for life not for a while: Don’t create plan B for your marriage, give your marriage your all, and make it work not a war.
— Marriage is a place of service: Be ready to serve
— Marriage involve three, not two: God, Man and his Wife. Involve God in your marriage
— Marriage involves some people coming around: Yes, In-laws, Friends and Family Members will always show up, please learn how to manage them not about fighting them.
FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND MEN: You need to understand men generally before you can live in peace with one of them. If you don’t understand men you won’t know how to relate with and manage the one you married. Men generally have eight basic needs in marriage, I call them desperate needs and they are: Respect, Career support, Family support, Good character, Sexual fulfilment, Admiration, Domestic support and an Attractive spouse.
If you don’t understand these deeply and utilize them you won’t be able to live joyfully with any man.
FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND THEIR HUSBANDS
The third mistake wives normally make in marriage is failure to understand their husbands.
I mentioned that you need to understand marriage and men. yes, you must, but the most important is to understand your own husband. In our marriage school for women, I called it ‘Husbandtology’.
Having deep knowledge of your husband is a great way to secure the future of your marriage. Your marriage can not be better than the understanding of your husband that you have.
You see if you don’t understand your husband, you may think he is the worst husband anybody can have, you may think he is a difficult man, especially if you are fond of comparing him to your Dad, your Ex, your Pastor etc.
To understand your husband you need to become his student, you need to know what he is thinking and how he is thinking the way he is thinking, it may be a complex job but you know that it is a lifetime job of love.
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