3 Major Truth You Need To Know About Communication That Will Ignite Love
-Bisi Adewale
In every successful marriage and relationship, communication is key. The death or unhealthy communication styles will affect the relationship negatively. Below are the 3 major information you need to know about communication that will ignite love in your marriage.
- Bad Communication. (Ephesians 4:29)
– Zero Communication. No communication at all or silent treatment.
– Game Playing. Deceitful speech, lying, half-truth, exaggeration, etc.
– Ambiguous Communication. Careless communication, wrong presentation of receiver and sending of wrong feedback.
– Confrontational Communication. It involves speech specially made to provoke or annoy the other party. It may be jesting, lying, abusive words, curses etc. People normally use it when they are annoyed and intend to take their own pound of flesh. 1 Corinthians 15:33
All these are bad communication styles that prevent intimacy in marriage.
- Good Communication. The following communication fosters love in homes. They are : Constructive Communication. It involves speaking the truth in love, speaking about how we feel without hurting our partner. It is also called sandwich communication.-Open Communication. It involves speaking one’s mind, feelings, thoughts, ideas, events, one’s joy, fear, boldness, plan, hope, vision, ambition, aspiration, scepticism, faith, belief, etc. (Colossians 4:6)
3. Extra Mile Communication. This entails going beyond what your partner deserves just to make him or she feel good and happy. It involves praises, commendation, appreciation, apology, romantic words, adoration etc. A wife can tell her husband these: “I love you”, “You are a wise man”, “You are handsome”, “ Great job”, “Well done”, “I’m very proud of you”, “Good of you”, “Thank God I married you”, “I knew you could do it”, “I don’t know how my life would have been if I did not marry you”, “You are precious to me”, “You are more than gold”, “Excellent”, “Wonderful”, “Beautiful work”, “That is why I love you”, “You are unique”, “You are strong”, “You are a hard working man”, “You will make it”, “It is well”, “You deserve it”, “Thank you for being there for me”, “Thank you for marrying me”, “ Nothing can stop you”, “You are a success, “I am sorry”, “I was wrong”, “Good effort”, “You mean so much to me”, “I will love you forever”, etc.
While the husband can say the following to his beautiful wife: “You are the most beautiful girl in the world to have married me”, “You are a wonderful cook”, “I am the most fortunate man in the world for marrying you”, “you are unique”, “You are spectacular”, “I love your breasts”, “Your hip is so beautiful, “You are more than gold, “ You are right”, “You are wise, “That is right”, “You are correct”, “ You are a success, “ ,“You make me laugh”, “You make me forget my mother, “You lighten my day”, “You deserve the best”, “You are a virtuous woman, “You are a wonderful mother”, “Thank you for being part of my life”, “You are a good friend”, “A compassionate companion, “You are mine”, “You have a good attitude, “You are rare”, “You are a biological miracle”, “You are growing younger”, “You are looking fresher”, “You are growing in wisdom by the day”, “ No woman is better than you”, etc. Words like these cannot but lighten your marriage. Do not fail to go the extra mile to brighten the day of your partner by saying something sweet. Proverbs 16:24
Stop speaking in anger, speak in love. Stop making your marriage a WAR, make it WORK.
3 Major Truth You Need To Know About Communication That Will Ignite Love
