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3 Statements You Must Never Say To Couples In Stormy Marriages.

by Oba Samuel
3 Statements You Must Never Say To Couples In Stormy Marriages.

3 Statements You Must Never Say To Couples In Stormy Marriages.

At one time or the other, everybody will have an opportunity to counsel couples in stormy marriages but there are three statements you must never say to them because it can break their marriages instead of helping to build. As a counsellor, you must be careful about what you say and how you say it. It goes a long way in affecting your counselee. James 3:1-10, Prov. 15:1-2

Do not say the following things:

  1. “Separate or divorce your spouse” As a counselor, your motive must be to save that marriage by all means. You MUST NEVER say or do anything that will encourage separation and divorce. Always be a MARRIAGE DOCTOR not a MATRIMONIAL UNDERTAKER. Whatever God has joined together let no counsellor put asunder. (Malachi 2:13-16)
  2. “You Mis-married”- Never tell your counselee that the problem with his/her marriage is connected to a wrong choice of spouse. Even if the Lord told you so, it is too late to say it. As soon as somebody gets married, treat their marriage as the “will of God” and try as much as possible to keep the marriage going. It is too late to tell a couple they are not compatible after they’ve said: “yes I do”. (Eccl. 9:9)
  3. “Stop having sex with him, he will come to his senses”. Sex in marriage is one of the major duties of a wife to her husband, therefore, no counsellor should discourage sex between a man and his wife; no matter what happens. In fact, teach them how to enjoy it more in their marriage. Suggesting that a woman should use sex as a tool for getting what she wants is similar to telling her to kill her baby to cure the baby’s headache. (Prov.5:15-21, 1 Cor. 7:1-5)

3 Statements You Must Never Say To Couples In Stormy Marriages.

Culled from the book: Handling Marriage Counselling, by Bisi Adewale

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