3 Things That SHOULD NOT Exist in Healthy Relationships
I hear a lot of people exclaim that love relationship is complicated and, to a certain extent, I see reason in that, after all, we are all very complex beings.
But I also see people complicating their relationships and computing this to the difficulties in a generalized way. Believing that “relationships are complicated” can be a way of hiding the reality of unwillingness to build a healthy relationship.
Healthy relationships also involve some disagreements, certainly require a lot of work and commitment. No couple is happy for luck or charm, being happy is a function that takes great effort. The great truth is that it is worth it!
In this work it is important to observe some signs that indicate that the relationship may not be healthy and requires care:
1. Contempt and jealousy
When spouses are always putting themselves down, each disparaging the other’s achievements and discouraging their struggles, something is really going to be very bad.
Control, jealousy and envy are dangerous components to any kind of relationship and disastrous to the love relationship. Life with two aims at partnership, mutual assistance in the search of each one for their dreams and desires.
Anything that is different from this goes beyond the goal of a life in common and must be approached with caution.
2. Abuse of any order
When aggressiveness manifests itself, whether in words or actions, the relationship needs to be urgently rethought. All kinds of abuse are deeply offensive to the health of the relationship. Life in two needs to be based on respect between peers, there is no way to live well without it.
Spouses who build a good relationship pay great attention to well-being, protect themselves against their weaknesses, and never mind one another.
3. Exclusion
Living together represents unity, sharing, consortium. The effort to include the partner in one’s life is a function of both, after all, the choice to be together must be effective or totally lose meaning.
While attention to maintaining individuality, the balance in commune with everything that lives in common is critical. Feeling rejected is one of the greatest reasons for suffering for the human being and can never be experienced in a healthy relationship.
According to a psychologist while talking about this matter, he said that plunging into the countless stories of rejection, I have heard, I find several previous indications that the relationship was not well, that the syntony no longer existed and we understand that in fact, such a” rejection “does not Has just passed from the culmination of various situations.
Every relationship based on love and shared respect is healthy and, regardless of time, triumphs happily. “All relationships are complicated” beliefs delay healthy edification and can be fatal.
It is worth choosing new ways of thinking, replacing limiting beliefs and opening up to more positive and satisfying experiences. It is important to learn to trust these possibilities and, even if you have been hurt before, to believe that you may be different now.
Fundamental is to recognize and not make the same mistakes, seeking to learn to live intensely the life in common.
Article by Akinbode Toluleke check up Twitter on taakinbode
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