32 SERIOUS ISSUES YOU MUST EXPECT IN THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF MARRIAGE PART 2.
Bisi Adewale
This write-up is a must read for every couple or intended couples but for you to fully grasp the basics of this content, you must read the part one
ALSO READ: 32 SERIOUS ISSUES YOU MUST EXPECT IN THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF YOUR MARRIAGE ( PART 1).
If you are aware of these issues you will know how to handle them so that they will not destroy our Marriage.
16) HOME WORKS
As little as they may look, home works from the school of your Children can be Challenging to Parents who wants to support their Children in doing them, especially for the busy parents who do arrive home very late from the office. You must plan them as part of your schedule dailyOther must be properly
17) PARENTING TODDLERS
Toddlers are Children between the age of 0 to 3, Parenting Children at this age may be very Challenging for first-time parents, I will strongly advise you to get a copy of our book title: PARENTING TODDLERS for comprehensive teaching and guide on this.
18) WORK-LIFE BALANCE:
One of the major challenges is how to balance their life between work, fun, and family, most young couples never put into consideration this aspect as they get married, you need to learn about work-life balance, get good materials on this and live a balanced life avoiding marriage destruction.
19) FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT
Many young ones must have read about personal finance, some about Corporate finance but hardly will you see a young couple who have done a thorough study about family or Couple finance. You need to create time to learn about family
Finance, budget, proper ways to make and manage money. Get our books: MONEY MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE OR MAXIMIZING MONEY IN MARRIAGE for more on the issues of money.
20) IN-LAWS ISSUES
In-laws issues will also come up during the first three years of marriage, you must apply wisdom to manage them, you can’t run away from in-laws for too long you will meet somehow, what you need to do is to know how to manage them well. Our book WIVES VERSUS MOTHERS IN LAWS WHEN WILL THE BATTLE CEASE? Will be very good to you to put you through this.
21) MANAGING ROMANCE AND JOBS
Most young couples allow romance to die as soon as they resume work after the honeymoon, they begin to ignore each other need, they begin to take each other for granted, this is very dangerous for your family life. Make up your mind that you will keep the romance alive in your marriage no matter the age of your marriage. Learn how to do this by getting our books titled:
HOT AND SIZZLING MARRIAGE AND INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE.
22) LIFESTYLE CHANGES
One thing that is known to be difficult for newly wed is the Lifestyle change from singleness to married persons. Changing your lifestyle is a must as soon as you say I DO, you can’t be keeping late night like before, you can’t spend money like before, your dressing must be more mature. This is the price you must pay for a better marriage.
23) GENDER DIFFERENCES
Most people going to the altar do think the only difference between them and the person they are getting married is their genital, what a mistake, men are seriously different from women
24) PERSONALTY DIFFERENCES
Other major differences are the temperamental differences. You are not likely getting married to somebody from your temperament, their four classifications of temperaments namely: Sanguine, Melancholy, Phlegmatic, Choleric, you will do yourself lots of favor if you do a study of this temperament, their negative sides, their strength etc.
25) CONFLICT MANAGEMENT
At one stage or the other you will misunderstand each other, please learn how to fight fair, how to behave like an adult when angry before you sign the dotted lines.
26) BACKGROUND DIFFERENCES
Where you are raised, how you were raised, your experiences in life, your academic background, your Ethnicity, your past success or failures, your exposure, your birth order and that of your spouse will also have an effect on your marriage. You need to talk to your spouse to be and continue to talk in marriage and be patience with each other to have a blissful home.
27) IRRITATIONS
Your attitude, your mannerism, hobby, way of life, habits, dressing, character etc may irritate your mate in marriage and his or her own can irritate you too,this is very common in the first years of marriage ,that does not mean your marriage is bad, patience with each other, love and understanding you will get over it, you can talk to your counsellor if it persist.
28) CHANGE OF OUTLOOK
Most Men got married to their wives thinking their wives outlook will never change, they want their wives to remain figure 8, and still, catwalk even in pregnancy, sorry sir, it will change. Most women are known to get fatter in marriage than they were before marriage, most Women do fail to lose baby fat after the birth of their first Child, married women are known to be fatter than single ladies. Some Men also are known to develop pot belly in marriage. Please accept the fact that your spouse will change and prepare your mind to love him or her no matter the change that occurs after your wedding.
29) HOUSE RENT PAYMENT
One thing that will keep on reoccurring in your financial life is house rents, plan about it together.
30) BABY MID-NIGHT CRIES
Babies, Toddlers are known to cry in the middle of the night looking for breast milk and food, it is part of the cross parents must carry,some Babies can be nasty waking up more than four times before day break despite the fact that you are going to the office the second day cooperate together to feed the Child, please prepare for this before your wedding.
31) BIGGER BED: Your 4 by 6 bed will one day be smaller as baby begin to come, you’ve got to get a bigger bed, 6 by 6 will be the answer
32) BIGGER RESPONSIBILITIES: Your financial responsibility and demand on your finance will continue to increase immediately after your wedding, pregnancy, delivery,crèche, school and yet another baby. Elementary school, college, your responsibilities will keep on rising for at least 25 years when your first Child may be graduating and get a Job, don’t pray for lower responsibility but greater blessing of The Lord
ALSO READ: 32 SERIOUS ISSUES YOU MUST EXPECT IN THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF YOUR MARRIAGE ( PART 1).
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