What are the advantages of being ugly? by Precious Matovheke
1. No relationship problems:
Being “considered” ugly has to be the greatest thing that has ever happened to me, in school nobody ever asked me out and I didn’t have a boyfriend.
Whereas all my beautiful and light-skinned friends jumped in and out of relationships, and since I was the one they would confide in for some reason.
I realized how negatively those relationships affected them emotionally, physically and mentally.
This made me grateful I didn’t experience any of that because I already had a lot going on in my life as a child, boys would have led me to suicide.
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2. No fake friends:
Being absolutely beautiful attracts a lot of people, fake friends and attention from creepy men, perverts and men who objectify women.
For me on the other hand, when I walk down the street no one stares, makes creepy comments or even tries catcalling me but sometimes when passing a group of guys, I hear the mean things they say.
My life is rather peaceful. The guys who do talk to me are mostly genuinely nice people.
3. People see the real me:
Friends and acquaintances. Because I’m dark-skinned (most of the people where I come from are not as dark as I am.
For example, when I was In school I was one of the darkest kids in the school and the only one in my class.
I know that my friends are friends with me because they like “me” and not because I’m super pretty or anything like that.
I know that people who talk to me or rather develop some kind of interest in me don’t do it because I’m beautiful or ugly but because they look past everything and see me for who I truly am.
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4. I get a lot of ME-TIME:
I’m a loner, I absolutely love being alone and doing fun things by myself.
I believe that wouldn’t be possible if I wasn’t ugly because guys would be constantly trying to disturb my peace.
5. It drew me closer to God:
Growing up I didn’t do things that other kids did, I struggled to make friends and I was constantly bullied because of my dark skin.
Honestly speaking I never saw myself as ugly but everyone else did, including my mom, she’d constantly bully me and compare me to my light-skinned friends.
She call me names like Charcoal, which was quite ironic because I looked exactly like her.
One of my teachers used to call me Avatar, I was never able to confide in my mom about any of this because she was one of my bullies.
She even tried buying me skin-lightening products at some point, honestly, I do not blame her because she was also a victim of colourism.
However, this helped me focus on myself more, doing things that made me happy and staying away from anyone or anything that made me feel worthless.
I developed a close relationship with God and I find peace in knowing that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Initially, all the abovementioned things used to hurt me, I used to hate myself and I used to hate looking at myself in a mirror.
But I’m happy now and I’m so proud of the kind and caring person I’ve become.
Being seen as ugly has Honestly helped me see men for who they truly are (they really show you their true colours when they have nothing to gain from you).
I was told that I’m so ugly that the only reason someone would date me would be to sleep with me.
Funny enough, when guys try to form relationships with me they disappear as soon as I tell them I’m celibate.
This is me today:
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