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5 Fears First-Time Parents Have

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5 Fears First-Time Parents Have
The arrival of a baby, even though it is a moment of great joy, is also accompanied by fear, insecurity and, sometimes, much paranoia. It does not matter how much parents study and learn about it: you can not help feeling certain fears when you are experiencing a child for the first time.

1. Will I be able to raise and raise a baby?
This is a very common fear and usually already comes along with the news of pregnancy. Psychologist Katia Aparecida believes that the forty weeks of development of the baby in the mother’s belly is an ideal time for parents, and especially the mother, to prepare to receive the baby.

“Talking about feelings and fantasies about the new phase they are experiencing could help the couple develop internal resources to deal with this fear. It is only in everyday life that parents develop in their new roles and learn to raise their child. It is necessary that they learn to get rid of the guilt, because nobody is perfect and the parents will have their failures, but they will be able to learn from them”, explains.

2. Fear of the child not being well fed
Breastfeeding is not such an easy thing for all women. While some do on the first try, it is very common also that there are some problems for breastfeeding to pick up. Whether it works well or not, it is almost impossible for parents not to worry about feeding their children.

Breastfeeds are measured by time, which does not make it possible to be sure of the amount ingested. Even when the baby feeds on supplements, the fear of whether enough nutrition remains.

The most common indication is that the baby visit the pediatrician regularly for at least the first six months. These consultations will serve to measure the baby’s growth and also to guide parents in how best to feed the child. Also, do not believe if someone says your milk is weak. No milk is weak, it will only be important to check the routine of the feedings to see if they are satisfactory.

3. Fear of childbirth
All couples and especially women fear delivery . It involves a choice and involves birth and death. The death of the daughter who becomes a mother, and two births: that of the baby and that of the mother.

It marks a series of changes in a woman’s life. It is the most intense and transformative moment in your life, a fear of dying, of the loss of the baby, of life as it was, of the self and also of the gain of a child and the new life that will come with it. It is a unique experience, thousands of thoughts, fantasies and feelings at the same time.

According to Katia, it is necessary that the woman can also prepare for childbirth through the search of information, groups and courses for pregnant women, psychotherapy or even a psychological prenatal. “If the woman is equipped with knowledge of the entire pregnancy-puerperal cycle everything may be easier, and yet we can not say that she will not have any fear, but she will certainly be able to deal with it.”

4. Fear of not being able to breastfeed
“This fear can also be worked from the search for information, courses and groups of pregnant women. It is important for a woman to make a conscious choice to breastfeed, and not just because she believes the child is important. Breastfeeding will require patience, persistence, dedication and time, so the mother should be willing, it is not instantaneous as it may seem, it is an apprenticeship, “comments psychologist Katia Aparecida.

5. Fear of the baby going awry and I do not wake up at night
Especially when parents are first-time, the fear that the baby will go awry or die suddenly is more than ordinary. Every pregnant woman has heard of Sudden Death Syndrome and is afraid that her baby may be hit. This fear is what makes parents worry at all times to check to see if the baby is breathing. Who never went through this or heard this story?

Fear is common due to the characteristic insecurity that accompanies the recent parents during the first months of the baby. The best way to reassure yourself about this is by talking to your pediatrician and taking away all your doubts, no matter how insignificant they may seem.

Although the causes are not exactly known, some care has dramatically reduced the number of sudden deaths, such as putting the baby to sleep on the stomach, avoiding smoke or blankets that could cause danger of suffocation. Consult your pediatrician.

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