Sometimes the advice you get is completely opposite from what you’ve heard before. Someone tells you, you should never go to bed angry, but the next day someone else says you should absolutely go to bed angry. How do you know what to believe and practice?
Ultimately, you have to figure out what’s best for you, but no matter what, there are five things that aren’t ever great for your relationship.
1. Holding a grudge
Forgiveness is one of the main keys to a happy marriage. You’ll never be completely happy if you can’t forgive your spouse, especially if you tend to hold grudges over the smallest things. When your partner apologizes, or even if they don’t – let the small things go. You’ll be so much happier if you do.
2. Looking at pornography
This one isn’t too surprising, but it’s worth talking about. Pornography is proven to have some seriously harmful effects on marriage and families, so don’t let it be a part of your life or your marriage.
3. Moving-in together before marriage
Moving-in together before you’re married seems like the mainstream thing to do these days, but it can actually have negative long-term effects. In some (not all) cases, it shows a lack of commitment and stability because it’s easier to end the relationship if you’re just living together.
4. Personal hobbies and friendships
Don’t get me wrong, personal hobbies and friendships are awesome. You should hold on to the things that make you unique. However, too much time spent with hobbies and friends takes a toll on your marriage. Find a healthy balance and remember that your spouse should always come first.
5. Fighting too much
We’ve all heard that arguing is actually healthy for your marriage, but it’s only healthy if you know how to fight fair (and if you’re not fighting all the time). Instead of arguing, work together to find a fair solution to your problem. Only fight when it’s absolutely necessary, and don’t sweat the small things. It’s not worth an unhappy marriage.
If any of these issues are affecting your marriage, you can work on them together. Talk with your spouse and figure out the best way to improve your marriage for a happier life (and learn to ignore the advice that doesn’t fit you as a couple).
Also read: 6 Relationship Things You Should Not Tell Anyone
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