6 Greatest Mistakes in Every Relationship
Who has never had a relationship problem? A relationship to two has a few thorns that hurt, but, there is also the scent of roses that exude within passionate hearts. It takes a lot of courage and great care to remove the thorns without hurting the rose bush.
1. Use of the pronoun “I”, instead of “we”
For the ease that is at the beginning of a particular relationship, one thinks only of one’s own navel, making a selfish relationship. We know that maintaining individuality is essential, but that does not rule out the need to establish true partnerships.
After all, if you just want to think about your good, then it is worth much more to be alone. Do not include another person in your life to change it as someone who changes underwear.
2. Objectification of people
Many people show themselves as objects but do not want to be treated as such. One who conquers the other by the carriage, by the bottle of Absolut at the table, by the turbinated breasts, by the thin belt, must be prepared, sooner or later, to be treated as a disposable object.
3. Lack of alignment
A relationship without talking about what you are willing to offer and what you expect from the other. Before saying “yes,” it should be law to have a clarification conversation to treat the smallest detail, even if they look silly and unimportant, like, “I hate family gatherings, do not invite me to dinner with your family all the time. “,” I love eating and I hate diet and exercise, “or” I love dogs and I like to sleep with them. Sometimes the bed will be occupied by a third member. “So if one quality of yours is unbearable in the eyes of another, the relationship does not even begin and avoids future wear.
4. The habit of cultivating lies
For some people, lying is a habit as common as brushing teeth. These people are guided by the law “if he does not know, no problem”.
That is, it sets a rule for relationship without knowing whether the other is in agreement. It is a “I-I” relationship because it is built only according to which one of the two thinks right.
5. Alienation of people
Television would be great if it did not take a tremendous amount of time in our lives. TV is a passive content, we stand there with our mouths open before it swallowing up everything the media wants to shove us down.
The result? There is no time for reflections. If you work all day and when you come home find a way of distraction so you do not have to think about anything, you will never be able to solve your problems and your ghosts. So people keep making the same mistakes in relationships, they repeat the same shit because they just have not stopped to reflect on the ills that certain behaviors cause in their lives.
Excessive Attachment to Rituals
People seem to still be very numbed with the rituals that surround relationships, and forget to think about what really matters. It is the case of the girl who buys an alliance, makes an engagement to the whole family, begins to research dress, and forgets to take care of what really matters – the relationship with the other.
The end of the movie we already know – marriages that are just beginning and ending. Could it be that if the two had spent time investing in dealing with the problems of the relationship rather than the problems of the wedding party, would not it have been much more fruitful?
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