6 Secret to a Successful Long Term Relationship
What makes a happy couple? Happiness is difficult to explain as it means something different for everybody. For many people, a happy relationship is one that has little to no drama or arguments and both partners feel secure and comfortable with each other. For others, it means a relationship with excitement, adventure, and passion. However, in order to have a successful relationship, every couple should pay attention to the little details that make relationships work and last. If you follow the steps in this article, everything should fall into place:
- Tell your partner you love them
Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship.
- Show some affection
Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy.
- Be there for your Partner
Nobody wants to be in a relationship where their partner is unavailable. You should be there for your significant other when they face loss and challenges in life such as a death in the family, illness, or career problems. However, make sure you are also there to listen to them talk about smaller problems in their daily lives. Doing so will strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together. It will also make you seem more caring and reliable to your partner.
- Get Them Gifts
Small tokens of affection can take your relationship a long way. Don’t just wait for birthdays or anniversaries to give gifts. You can brighten up their day by getting them small gifts or even a bunch of flowers. You can also surprise them with breakfast in bed, or even by simply leaving them small notes throughout the day. Gifts don’t need to be expensive or extravagant- they just need to be thoughtful and heartfelt.
- Share yourself
Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that, be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else. While there is certainly a need for some personal space in even the closest relationship, give as much of yourself and your time as you can bear to your partner.
- Strive for equality
Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special considerations you’d be unwilling to offer in return.