7 SECRETS TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
What makes a happy couple? Happiness is difficult to explain as it means something different for everybody. For many people, a happy relationship is one that has little to no drama or arguments and both partners feel secure and comfortable with each other. For others, it means a relationship with excitement, adventure, and passion. However, in order to have a successful relationship, every couple should pay attention to the little details that make relationships work and last. If you follow the steps in this article, everything should fall into place:
7. BE THERE FOR YOUR PARTNER
Nobody wants to be in a relationship where their partner is unavailable. You should be there for your significant other when they face loss and challenges in life such a death in the family, illness or career problems. However, make sure you are also there to listen to them talk about smaller problems in their daily lives. Doing so will strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together. It will also make you seem more caring and reliable to your partner.
6. WHEN THERE IS CONFLICT, TALK IT OUT.
Recent research suggests that couples benefit from being flexible in how they respond to conflicts (Overall & McNulty, 2017). When couples are navigating serious conflicts, are secure in their relationship, and have the ability to adapt their behaviors, being direct and oppositional can actually help more than other approaches; however, a more cooperative, affectionate approach may be the best strategy when someone tends to get defensive or when the conflict is minor. In other words, there’s no “one size fits all” strategy: Successful couples adapt their approach to a specific conflict as a function of its broader context.
5. COMMIT TO COMMITMENT ITSELF
Making a relationship last is more than committing to another person. It’s also committing to the idea of commitment. Couple therapists in training are taught to pay attention to three things in the therapy room: each partner, and also the relationship itself. Every couple creates their own little culture, and it’s vital to note if it’s a culture of love, support, and middle ground, or one of criticism, insecurity, and power struggles.
Seeing a partnership as something the two of you build together every day keeps you in the game much more than simply seeing the relationship as a way to get your individual needs met.
4. GET THEM GIFTS
Small tokens of affection can take your relationship a long way. Don’t just wait for birthdays or anniversaries to give gifts. You can brighten up their day by getting them small gifts or even a bunch of flowers. You can also surprise them with breakfast in bed, or even by simply leaving them small notes throughout the day. Gifts don’t need to be expensive or extravagant- they just need to be thoughtful and heartfelt.
3 COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
Everyone knows that communication is one of the key aspects of a healthy relationship and yet most of us don’t take the time to think about it or actively work on it.
In order to communicate clearly, you need to first think it through – consolidate your thoughts before you speak. If you want something, be direct about it; don’t assume that your spouse should pick up on hints or that they should automatically know what you want. The clarity in communication is important because it avoids misunderstandings and ensures that both of you are on the same page. Above all else, avoid sending mixed messages.
2. FIGHT LIKE ADULTS
All loving couples fight, but they never fight dirty. Try to be rational and focus on finding solutions instead of playing the blame game. Also, once a fight is over, learn to move on. Don’t bring it up again just to spite your partner.
1. TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM
Three simple words can mean the world to your partner. Take a moment every day to put your feeling into words and tell your partner just how much you love them.
Romantic relationships are dyadic interactions, and as such, they are ever-changing and intensely complex. The recipe for a successful marriage isn’t fully clear, but this sample of findings points to the importance of work and effort. Successful relationships don’t just happen: They emerge when two people invest in their relationship and have the structural support (e.g., manageable life stress) to do so well.
To sum it all up, the grass is greener where you water it. So tend to yourself and your relationship, and watch your garden grow. It may not always be a rose garden, but together, it will be yours.