7 steps to working on the Your Child Tantrums
One of the most stressful moments that we as parents face is certainly the hours of emotional unrest of our little, famous tantrums!
Today, as educators of our children, we feel the need for a discipline that is different from that of our dear parents. The information and behavior of our children has also been modernized, as has everything around us.
For this reason, nothing more just than as parents, we also begin to adapt to current disciplines, such as the so-called Positive Discipline.
This new technique works the child’s emotional, acting directly on their feelings, understanding and teaching the child to feel.
According to a writer and educator, we get more effective results against the tantrums when we apply the following steps:
1. Be present
Stop whatever you have done to resolve the conflict. Looking directly into the eyes of our children when they are in emotional discontent can make all the difference, for this you need to focus on the child and nothing else.
2. Avoid sermons
It’s no time for sermons or teaching anything at that time, just calm the child.
In some circumstances, the best thing to do is just to calm the child of their emotions, and nothing better than a hug and a lap for that.
3. Always go down to talk to the child.
The purpose of this is to be able to look into her eyes. This phase also applies (and especially) to the tantrum moments in the street, in the market, in stores … Go down in any environment to talk to your child, put yourself in the same condition as the child, and talk to calm and steadfast.
4. Name the child the feeling she is having and unaware of
We, adults, already know what and how we feel at certain times and situations; even the children do not even know the name of the feelings that bubble in their body and in their minds. They need to be trained to understand what they are feeling and what their position should be in front of what they feel.
5. Welcome the feeling
Explain the reasons for feeling like this, and what is normal and common. Try to understand why she felt like this right now, try to get her to explain.
Children can explain what they feel, if we pay attention to their words and gestures, we will be able to understand their expressions, speak and enjoy to teach that it is not bad to feel this, they just need to know how to deal with, to control their expressions and feelings.
6. Divide your faults with the child
Show that you are also vulnerable and feel the same way about her sometimes.
Parents also make mistakes, they also get angry, they also get out of control … Teach by example, also learning to maintain emotional control in the time of anger.
7. Use your imagination
Every child’s progress, when coupled with an imagination that is strong and fertile in children, is achieved more effectively. Use your child’s favorite characters as an example, work on your child’s wishes, dreams, desires.
Of course, it is not your first try that the child will respond to these steps with all the effectiveness you desire, but we must be persistent in teaching. Being constant in teaching and methods encourages learning.
Our children lack a balanced emotional and knowledge of their feelings, we can offer this to them, beginning with a change in ourselves.
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