7 things a woman learns only after having the first child

7 things a woman learns only after having the first child
When a child is born, a mother is born. And it takes a mother to be born to the woman to discover that she knew nothing about motherhood – although she loved to throb. After going through the first experience, nothing will be as before. Here are some lessons she learns after having the first child:

1. Weeping baby is not synonymous with incompetent mother
Before motherhood, when seeing a baby crying many women present various theories about “pampered children” or “relapsing mothers.” But after they become mothers, they realize that baby’s crying is not always synonymous with morning, sadness or pain. It is, in fact, the baby’s primary means of communication.

As a first-time mother, when faced with constant cries, she may even despair. But over time you will learn to identify the reasons your child is crying.

2. You need to filter the tips you receive
Of course, some of Grandma’s recipes are infallible. But there are also many tips being given that can put your child’s health at risk, such as dripping breast milk into his ear to cure ear pain. You need to be wise and filter the tips you receive.

3. Many items of the trousseau will not even be used
It’s crazy going into a kid’s store and seeing all those amazing clothes and accessories for babies. It makes you want to take everything. Who exaggerates in the trousseau are usually first-time mothers.

With the second child on the way, they already know that they will probably need less than half of what they had for their first child. Because the baby grows very fast, they often cling to a few pieces of clothing, and end up using them more often.

She learns that it is the right thing to buy clothes and other things for the baby just after the baby shower, because she will buy only what was left.

4. It is a bad idea to overprotect your child.
She learns to let the child get dirty, get up alone after falling (when it was not serious, of course!), Do things alone and allow him to get frustrated from time to time.

Overprotective mothers create dependent and insecure children. If she made that mistake the first time, she will want to do everything different with her next child.

5. Eating for two is not a good idea.
During pregnancy, it makes you want to send the doctor’s nutritional advice to the top and if you finish eating too much of things. Many women prefer to believe that they will be able to lose extra pounds by breastfeeding, since breastfeeding consumes a lot of calories.

Only it’s not always like this. Not every woman can lose enough to return to her former weight. And what to do with those extra pounds? Also, putting on weight excessively during pregnancy can pose risks to both the mother and the baby.

The recommendation is to add 300 calories from the second trimester [gestation], considering the development of the fetus and weight gain In the case of twin pregnancies, one should add twice as many calories, but it will all depend on the nutritional status of the mother and the recommendation of the professional accompanying her.

As you already know the consequences of these excesses, in the next gestation she will want to get much lighter, especially if she still has some accumulated pounds of the previous gestation.

6. Not everything goes as planned
Starting with childbirth. Many women who planned a vaginal delivery ended up having to have a last-minute C-section. Or they plan to breastfeed exclusively until the sixth month, but for one reason or another, they could not. They want their child to feed well, but he has little appetite, or does not appear to be “as healthy” as his friends’ children.

Being a mother is just the thing! It hardly goes exactly as planned. But despite the mishaps, it’s a wonderful experience! The woman will hardly put so many expectations in the next pregnancy or the next child, to avoid unnecessary frustrations.

7. It is impossible to be efficient at all
When she becomes a mother, the woman learns on her skin that it is impossible to be an “exemplary” mother and, at the same time, to be a great housewife, professional and cook or a model wife.
She will often have to choose between leaving the house spotless and giving attention to her child. You will have other similar choices to make. Unless you receive a lot of help (very much!), it will fail in several of these things, for the simple fact of being a simple mortal, subject to errors and limitations.

Over time, she learns that it is no use getting frustrated at not accounting for everything. And that should not satisfy anyone.

Once these lessons are learned, the experiences with the other children that come will tend to be quieter and more realistic. But that will not make her an error-free mother.

New mistakes will come, and with them, new learning. Truth be told, mothers are far from perfect. And motherhood is a school where you even get to the end of the year, but you never graduate.

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