7 wounds in your marriage that you will not be able to heal

7 wounds in your marriage that you will not be able to heal
A successful and successful marriage is not a “bed of roses”, far from it, it will be full of “thorns”, so it is necessary for the spouses to have maturity to deal with each “thorn” that tend to separate them.

However, preparation and positive action can keep this marriage well structured and ensure happiness in the home, regardless of the size of these “thorns.”

These are the 7 wounds that you will not be able to heal at your wedding:

1. Mutual contempt
Scorn tends to be the “false friend,” it will not only affect one of the spouses but rather the two partners because the person who chooses to despise the partner for his failures, instead of addressing the issue and resolving it Is also failing and will destroy your marriage.

Try to improve your partner, but also try to improve yourself, because marriage is made of two different people, but they have the same goals. Couples who improve together tend to find happiness in the home.

2. “The owner of the truth”
The problem is that many only realize that they do not always have to be right when they lose. Being the owner of the truth may even fill the ego, but it will empty the relationship.

Sometimes, some have to act in the relationship, other times they just have to wait a little longer before they act, because of many act more by impulse than by relationship.

3. “Hit the same key”
Unfortunately, many relationships experience infidelity on the part of one of the spouses, this is a terrible pain that few are able to overcome without the divorce.

There are couples who choose to keep the marriage, however, when the burden of betrayal can not be overcome, this makes the home the worst place to live, because the betrayed spouse recalls the partner’s sin in all discussions. The relationship gets sick and there is not only a bad memory being retaken but also, a wound being nudged every day.

Unfortunately, the two parties violated the marriage vows, because one betrayed, but repented. Now, if one of the spouses has chosen the path of reconciliation, it is her duty to forgive and leave it behind because the children do not deserve to hear or pay for their parents’ mistakes.

4. “Secrets”
We all need space and privacy, we need to have our own time with friends, read a book and do some things separate from the partner. Nobody has to stick together all the time because we are aware that everything that is too much ends up doing bad.

However, it is important to remember that couples should never keep secrets from each other as this generates an abandonment of marital values and causes deep wounding in the spouse.

5. Absence
Most divorcees point out that one of the factors that weigh the most on separation is related to the absence of one of the spouses.

It is no use for one of the partners to return home after work, but it leaves the mind and heart in the company. There are also partners who return home physically, but their eyes and heart are stuck in the social networks or messages of their cell phones, while the partner serves only to meet their needs. And the children, sadly, become “Christmas decorations” that many use not for Christmas, but rather to show that they have the ornaments, so are the children, also used to adorn the “family” for the people of Outside the home.

6. Narcissist
One of the worst partners to relate to is narcissists. The relationship is usually problematic from the start and will hardly last because the narcissist is selfish to the extreme.

That is, he will never give you what is good, you will never show your true love because that is what he usually keeps for himself, but, he will always suck everything from you, will also blame you for failures and let you live only on crumbs.

7. Give up on yourself
There is a growing number of selfish partners who suck at partner values, also imprison them in a way that they are unable to express themselves, become frustrated, and this tends to be one of the irreparable factors in the relationship.

We are all born with traits of different personalities, and, throughout life, we acquire many habits. These are the reasons that make us so different and so special.

When we relate we tend to strive to adapt to these differences and develop new customs for the well-being of the relationship, but we should never give up on ourselves for anything or anyone.

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