A lot of times, couples get pissed off with each other in the way they respond to spoken words said by their spouses. We can do better if we come to a place where we learn to respond in the affirmative and not become combative in the pattern with which we speak. The following will help you learn more about this:
- Statement: I’m really hungry.
– Wrong response: I have never taken anything likewise since morning.
– Right response: Oh sorry dear, let’s see if there’s something you can manage for now.
- Statement: Why don’t you try this option?
– Wrong response: Why is it that you always find fault with what I do?
– Right response: Well, I’ve tried this before and I think it will work. If not, I’ll try that.
- Statement: I want more food.
– Wrong response: Ha-ha, rice has finished, garri has finished, and ingredients are almost finished, and there’s no sign of salary yet.
– Right response: Sorry, please manage that for now; I’ll find some snacks over to you later.
- Statement: I can’t finish this food.
– Wrong response: Ha-ha, things are expensive now o; and you can’t afford to waste food like that. You will have to eat it tomorrow!
– Right response: Should I keep the rest for you, or give it out?
- Statement: I got wounded in the kitchen.
-Wrong response: I’ve told you to always be careful with the knife. Why is it that you seem to be careless always?
– Right response: Oh sorry, let me have a look. You need to be more careful next time.
- Statement: Are you okay, is anything the matter with you?
– Wrong response: Can’t you see for yourself; what kind of question is that?
– Right response: I’m not feeling fine; I think I need some clinical attention.
- Statement: I’ll like to eat corn flakes.
– Wrong response: No way! It’s for the children, and that’s for one month! Take garri if you are hungry.
– Right response: Okay, you can eat a little. I trust you’ll give us money to stock another.
- Statement: Haven’t you finished what you are doing?
– Wrong response: You are seated there doing nothing and you are asking if I’ve not finished!
– Right response: It will still take a while; can you please lend me a hand?
- Statement: I bought this on my way; I thought it will be useful.
– Wrong response: How much did you buy it? What! That’s too expensive – wọ́n ti gbá ẹ! (You have been charged in excess)
– Right response: Oh darling, you’ve been over-charged on this purchase. Maybe you haggle well next time.
In relationships, husband and wife need to know how best to handle themselves, most especially where communication is concerned. At times we think we have said it right, but then, taking corrections and adjusting to the new way or most appropriate way to communicate is important.
Family get more united more words are cleverly conveyed to the recipient and it can really be rewarding for your marriage or family life.