9 PURPOSES OF SEX IN MARRIAGE
Bisi Adewale
“Sex is beautiful, delightful, necessary. God made it so, it is an expression of oneness, a total commitment, a complete self-giving, a sacred obligation sex is not a right to claim selfishly, not a Cavour to withhold childishly, not a weapon to dominate one another, not a reward for good behavior” — Dr. J Allan Petersen
To maximize sex in your marriage you need to know its purpose and the reasons why The Lord put it in your marriage if you don’t the purpose of a thing, abuse is inevitable.Here are 9 purposes of marriage:
1: PURITY: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due to benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. (1 Corinthians 7:2, 3 KJV). You need to know that one of the major purposes of sex in marriage is purity, so to make your wife and you remain pure before God get the best of sex from each other.
2: PRESERVATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE: When purity is secured, marriage will be preserved, so one of the purposes of sex in your marriage is the preservation of your marriage please don’t take it lightly.
3: PLEASURE: Sex is also the gift of pleasure from God for married people so it will be wrong to say you will only do it when you need a baby, no, it is for pleasure, for satisfaction and fulfillment, get it at home don’t look outside for it.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. “And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?” (Proverbs 5:19, 20 KJV).
Get all the pleasure you need from your wife don’t go to any other woman for it, let the breast of your wife be your delight not the breast of any other lady, whatever your wife has is the best, get pleasure at home, that is a safe and secure pleasure.
4: PASSION: It is also for sexual love called passion, which helps to strengthen marriage And make the home stronger and better. This is what makes marriage different from any other human relationships.
A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon. Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits”. (Song of Solomon 4:15, 16 KJV)
5: PEACE: Good sex in marriage bring up passion, satisfaction, fulfillment, and purity which all combine together to generate peace in marriage. One of the major cause of misunderstanding in marriage is sexual denials, when a couple gets to the level of sexual satisfaction they hardly fight and easily settle their differences, so when you seek to give your wife sexual satisfaction in your marriage you are only looking for peace.
6: PROCREATION: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. (Genesis 1:28 KJV)
God want us to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth, the only way we can fulfill this is through matrimonial sex.
7: PARTNERSHIP: Good sex in marriage help our partnership in marriage. It aid agreement it is a communion, it leads to bonding and deep intimacy. It leads to togetherness, fondness, and oneness at home.
8: PROTECTION: When sexual fulfillment is gotten at home, it leads to protection of couples from sexually transmitted diseases and bind them together, a sexless marriage will easily open the family to sexual immorality and many easily fall into error. I agree perfectly with a marriage counsellor that said ” A good sex at home is the best way to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and untimely death” So to protect yourself and your wife in that marriage and prevent error, satisfy your own wife sexually and get your sexual desire fulfillment only at home with your wife and not any other woman.
9: PROGRESS: When couple agree, walk in purity, in peace which I said sexual fulfillment in marriage normally lead to, it do lead to progress and prosperity for that family, but when couple open the room for sexual temptation and open the door widely for infidelity it will affect every other part of their life including their progress. So when you sleep with your wife only, you are only calling for progress and prosperity in your home.
Now that you have known the purpose of sex in your marriage, you need to go ahead and be the best at home, you will do well to be a generous giver to your wife and sleep with your wife only, seek to make her enjoy it not just for your pleasure only, this will make her be receptive to you and turn your marriage around.
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