Seven Things That Can Ruin Your Wedding (Number 5 Has Damaged Many Weddings!)

Let’s talk heart to heart.

From the loud, colourful Saturdays in Lagos to the calm, luxury garden weddings in Abuja. Nigerian weddings are not just events. They are experiences. They are family pride. They are community announcements. They are soft life on display.

But behind some of those perfect Instagram pictures?

Tears. Tension. Drama. Regret.

I’ve seen it. I’ve heard the stories. Some weddings that looked flawless online were hanging by a thread behind the scenes.

If you’re planning your big day, read this slowly. Because sometimes, it’s not the big disasters that ruin weddings, it’s the small ignored issues.

And yes… number 5? That one has damaged many.

#1 Poor Planning (a.k.a “We’ll Figure It Out”)

Hope is not a wedding strategy.

Some couples start serious planning two weeks before the date. Vendors are fully booked. Prices have doubled. Stress level is at 100%.

Now the decorator is late. The MC is confused. The cake is delayed.

Planning early doesn’t just save money. It saves your sanity.

#2 Family Tension Nobody Addressed

This one is delicate.

The uncle who feels sidelined.

The aunty who thinks she should control the guest list.

The mother-in-law who doesn’t like the aso-ebi colour.

If these conversations are not handled early, they will show up on your wedding day, sometimes smiling, sometimes not smiling.

Marriage joins two people. But wedding joins two families. Don’t ignore that reality.

#3 Spending to Impress People Who Won’t Help You Later

Let’s be honest.

Some weddings are built on loans and pressure.

You want the biggest hall.

The trending designer.

The grand entrance that will shut down the internet.

Meanwhile, you and your partner haven’t even discussed financial plans after the honeymoon.

There’s nothing wrong with having a beautiful wedding. Just don’t destroy your financial peace to impress people that will move on after Sunday.

#4 Trusting Vendors Without Proper Checks

“I know him.”
“She’s my friend.”

“He’s affordable.”

Affordable is good. But reliable is better.

One unreliable vendor can ruin months of preparation. Late arrival. Missing items. Poor coordination.

Your wedding is not the place to experiment.

#5 Inviting Exes or Keeping Emotional Doors Open 

Let’s breathe here.

This one has caused silent arguments before reception even started.

Some people invite exes to prove maturity. Some keep “harmless” communication going up until wedding week.

But wedding days are emotional. They are symbolic. They are sensitive.

If your partner feels uncomfortable, that discomfort matters.

Marriage is not the place for backup options. It’s not the place for emotional triangles.

Protect what you’re building.

#6 No Crowd Control

If you print 400 invites in Nigeria, prepare for 700 guests.

Without proper planning:

• > Food will finish early.

• > Drinks will disappear.

• > Seating will be chaotic.

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And once guests are uncomfortable, the mood changes quickly.

A peaceful, well-organized wedding will always feel more classy than a loud, disorganized one.

#7 Ignoring Red Flags Because “Wedding Has Been Announced”

This is the hardest one.

Sometimes, deep down, you know something isn’t settled. Maybe communication is poor. Maybe trust is shaky. Maybe family pressure rushed the decision.

But because the invitation cards are already out, you push forward.

A wedding can be postponed. A stressful marriage is harder to fix.

The goal isn’t just to have a beautiful ceremony.

The goal is to build a healthy marriage.

After all the glitz, the photos, the aso-ebi, the dance entrances… you will go home with one person.

That’s the real beginning.

So plan beautifully. Celebrate fully. Enjoy your day.

But don’t forget, peace is the real luxury.

Now tell me honestly… which of these have you witnessed before? Let’s talk.