In the 50s, 60s and the 70s, the sanctity of the institution of marriage had not been corrupted; it was still very much intact and respected as a sacred institution.
However, with the advent of the Western culture, the marital institution began to suffer setbacks. Pressures of life and the western way of life, made divorce, a hitherto foreign word in the lexicon of couples, becoming order of the order.
In other to continue having that sparks in your relationship, flee from the vices below. They are relationship breakers.
Keeping records of past mistakes
Let it go is the word. Humans are bound to make mistakes, but a mistake that has been genuinely apologized for should be let go.
Keeping records of spouses past mistakes will only endanger the relationship. Even, our Lord Jesus Christ forgives us our sins in other for us to have a better future, so who are we mortal humans, especially couples to keep records of past misdeeds.
This could be a positive factor when one defines it as self—esteem which is actually a plus. But it is also defined as being too individualistic, and a deep-rooted ego-centric individual will only achieve one thing in a relationship- destroys it.
The advice is not to be self-centered, but rather be open minded, especially in the area of decision taking as regards the family.
Lack of communication
Communication is key in any relationship, especially in marriage where both partners are coming from different socio-cultural background.
It breeds misunderstanding and creates doubts in the minds of partners.
Many relationships failed because of poor communication. Many couples find it hard to express how they feel for each other. They don’t know how to verbalize their needs and they don’t know how to listen carefully. If you are one of those people, then it might be time to read some tips for an effective communication.
In a relationship, be tactful; pay attention; be a good listener and most importantly be honest about your feelings and thoughts.
It is important that partners should not feel isolated in a marriage, it is the greatest destroyer of marriages.
At times, it may be as result of children where the wife now focuses more on the children, neglecting the husband. On the other hand, Husbands due to prevailing economic circumstances, and the incessant need to provide for the family may also become engrossed with his works, neglecting the wife.
It is important that a balance be created. For one, create time for family re-union.
Expecting too much from your partner
If you expect perfection from other people, your whole life will be a series of disappointments, grumbling and complaints. In relationships, many people have high expectations of their partners, and become disappointed when their loved ones do not live up to their expectations.
The advice here is for partners to come off your high horse. Take your partner for who he/she is, and you will be amazed by having them perform better than you had hoped.
Making unrealistic promises in other to win a woman’s heart could also be catastrophic when the truth finally dawn on the partner. What will be yours will be yours. Win your partners with your true nature than using cosmetic means because it won’t last.
The idiom that says ‘cut your coat according to your size’ should be the first guiding principle when are you in a marriage. Most couple end up piling debt when they refuse to listen to their inner feelings and capabilities rather than succumbing to external pressures.
If you want to please people, you have a price for that, and if you will also want to swim within the realms of your resources you also have a price to pay, the tormenting price is the price you pay for pleasing people.