Sex is a crucial part of every marriage which couples must not do without, if they want their marriage to be more fruitful. As the years go by and you get older, your intimate relationship should get better. Sex with your partner can become more satisfying because you know each other’s likes, dislikes, habits, and preferences.
Building and maintaining a good sex life with your partner requires both of you to put in time and effort. These are the ingredients that can help you keep your intimate relationship satisfying through acceptance of each other’s flaws and quirks, date nights, fun, and playfulness, love for each other, Physical attraction, Productive and meaningful communication, etc.
There is no reason why you can’t have an active and healthy sex life for many, many years. Here are ways you can have a Healthy Married sex life:
- Communication: Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another more. Chatting about superficial things can be fun, but remember to go deeper in order to really establish intimacy.
Also, ensure you share your innermost thoughts and feelings with one another regularly. Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is one of the things that can make sex great.
- Share Desires and Expectations: Talk openly and share your sexual desires. Be open and honest about what you want. You don’t want to use this time to be critical of your partner; just assert what you want in the bedroom and what makes you feel good.
Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking. False or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage. If your expectations are not being met by your partner, communicate this tactfully and sensitively.
- Make a Plan: When things of life become busy and schedules are hectic, planning for sexual encounters with one another may become important. Some people may find scheduling undesirable, but it all depends on how you look at it. You can make plans just as exciting as spontaneous sex.
- Initiate Sex More Often: Don’t expect your spouse to be the only one in your marriage who is responsible for romance. You both need to take responsibility for having an intimate and successful relationship. Here are a few ideas to help you initiate sex more often.
Hold hands and show affection: Women particularly need to feel loved and connected in order to have the desire for sex.
Make time for intimate acts: Something as simple as a long embrace, kiss, hand or foot massage can help you connect and build intimacy and signal to your partner that you’re in the mood.
Plan date nights and other novel activities together and be open to trying new things.
- Take Good Care of Yourself: A healthy sex life intersects with your overall physical, emotional, and mental health. People who feel happy and healthy and have a positive body image are more likely to be in the mood.
If you exercise regularly and eat a nutritious diet, you’ll also have more energy for any activity. Keeping up with a fitness program will improve your flexibility and self-esteem, too.
There is some evidence that a single bout of exercise can help make sex more pleasurable, stimulating both short- and long-term arousal in women by driving increases in hormones as well as sympathetic nervous system activity.
- Seek Help When Needed
If you and your partner are having trouble building and maintaining a fulfilling sex life, you may need to seek help from a trained professional who can help you take steps to resolve the issue.
Talk to a doctor. If medical issues like erectile dysfunction (ED) or vaginal dryness are interfering with your sex life, a medical professional can prescribe appropriate treatment.
Seek counseling: Marriage counseling (also called couples therapy) can be very effective for opening the lines of communication between you and your spouse and figuring out strategies for improving sex and intimacy.
Reach out to a sex therapist. Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy, not hands-on therapy, that is used to help individuals and couples address sexual problems.
Working with a sex therapist, alone or together, can help you explore any emotional or relationship issues that might be affecting your sex life.
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