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If you must marry a single parent, propose to the children too

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If you must marry a single parent, propose to the children too-dailyfamily.ng

By Solomon Ekpo

Though single parenthood may not be the fault of the parent who’s left to take care of the kids, but our society frown sadly at it – especially at the parenting.
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Many single mothers and fathers have accepted what eventually became of their new status in marriage – separation. And this has left an indelible mark of singlehandedly training kid(s) that should be jointly ‘parented’. But for whatever reason, that’s not longer the case.
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Like the change of the climate, the African society is gradually drifting to sustaining single parenting. Does this affect the upbringing of the child, well that’s a story for another day.
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Truthfully, bachelors these days now find love in single mothers, and same thing is spelling out with spinsters toward single fathers. And this respite has fetched a lot of succour for both single parenting; damning the cultural ‘shame’ backward fellows have on single parents.
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Are you a bachelor ready to propose to a single mother, please be prepared to do same with her kid or kids. The child of the single mother must know she is acceptable with her mom new found love and she is liable to enjoy her mom’s union in peace. Same thing is applied to spinsters who accept marriage proposals from single fathers.
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Let the child know you’ll love her as much as you love her mom or dad in the union. She isn’t asking for much doing so! She has accepted her mom or dad needs companionship but she also must know she is safe to enjoy her mom or dad’s joy too.
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After making known your love to her mom or dad, take out time to propose your love to the child also. She needs to know what you have in mind for her. She needs to know she would be loved as much as you love her biological parent. She needs to know her place in the affair. This is so crucial and highly important.
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If you disdain marrying a single parent, please don’t go near proposing to the single moms or accepting proposal from single dads. You can’t single the parent out in love and thrash his or her kids in the union. Be mature enough to draw the lines of containments and inabilities. What’s what doing, they say it is what doing so very well.
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Are you in a union with a single parent? Hope you are enjoying it! And if you are not, seek counselling especially if the union friction is coming from the child of your spouse.
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Before you ask me if I can marry a single mom. ‘Yes I, Solomon can marry a single mom and enjoy the union.’
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Remember; if you’re a single parent, it is not totally your fault. But if before you accept proposal or you’re propose to, ensure your new love partner loves and cherishes your child from his or her heart. Your child needs every peace she can get in your new found love Cheers.

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