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Ladies: The best time to question your place in his life?

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Ladies: The best time to question your place in his life?

After a period of dating and being together without labels, you’ll need clarification and a clear expression of intent to determine whether your feelings are mutual or whether you’re on your own.

So you’re meeting up with a guy on a regular basis for dates, talking on the phone for hours, and simply getting to know each other.

The dates become more regular as time passes… You enjoy each other’s company, and everything is pleasant and sweet, but there are still no labels.

You’re dating and doing other relationship stuff,’ but you’re still single because the subject hasn’t been raised, despite the fact that it’s eating you up inside.

For many women, this is an all-too-familiar point. “Gosh!, I need to know what we’re doing here!” is the point where you have to speak.

After a period of dating and being together without labels, you’ll need clarification and a clear expression of intent to determine whether your feelings are mutual or whether you’re on your own.

You know it could go either way – he may be enjoying the dates, sex, and all that while you are already catching feelings and becoming connected; or he could be feeling you as well but unsure if the timing is right to ask or not.

Isn’t it the simplest way to find out if you just ask him?

It appears that all you need to do is inquire what you’re both up to, as well as what all the dates, hangouts, and phone calls mean to him. You must inquire in order to determine whether you and your partner are on the same page.

Unfortunately, asking the question is never that simple.

Most women are afraid that if the guy isn’t interested in a relationship, all of their courting and wishing for a happy ending will be for nought. As a result, they persist in the situationship, putting themselves in even more suffering.

Many people are unprepared for the risk of disappointment, so consider starting this conversation with a person who is just taking a cruise and enjoying himself, with no feelings connected. To say the least, that will be extremely unpleasant.

These are some of the reasons why many women would rather stay in the safety of not having to answer the question, “What are we?” Regardless of how likely the letdown is, you still need to know! In this circumstance, ignorance is not bliss!

If a guy isn’t clearly articulating his objectives or labelling what’s going on between you and you feel like time is being wasted, you must ask. Regardless of the possibility of losing him.

But when is it appropriate to inquire?

Some experts say that one month is the perfect duration, depending on how quickly the bond is formed and how strong it becomes. You should, in my opinion, inquire before the end of the three-month period following your first meeting.

This is reasonable enough so that you don’t come across as desperate for a partner. It also ensures that you don’t spend too much time dating him only to discover that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

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