8 attitudes that mother-in-laws should avoid at all costs
In chapter 13 of I Corinthians in the Bible, it is possible to learn about true love. In chapters 4, 5 and 6 we learn what love is, as well as what it does not. And in chapter 7 he teaches: “All things suffer, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”.
When we love our children, we teach true love, so we give our best and also give up many things to offer what they really need. However, when they grow up, it’s time to let them go their own way. So we need to show even greater love by supporting them in their decisions, such as careers and spouses.
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However, there are mothers who distort true love, these mothers choke their children because they blindly believe they know what is best for them, even if these children have grown up and built their own families.
Mothers who truly love their children will never make decisions for them, but they will allow the principles taught in the home to be the drivers for the new home they will build.
These are 8 attitudes that the mother-in-law should avoid at all costs:
1. Do not be boring
“Do not seek your interests”
Many relationships could be better if a mother did not interfere in the discussions of the son’s marriage.
The husband must act as an adult and resolve conflicts with his wife and not with his mother. He must also learn to value his wife because when he married, he left the pampering of his parents to find in his wife and children the responsibilities and love in the home.
2. Do not be authoritarian
“Do not let go of injustice”
The best couples maturely resolve all the challenges that appear in the relationship, without the involvement and authoritarianism of a father-in-law or mother-in-law in their way of living.
Good parents will allow their child, in partnership with his wife, to decide what is best for the couple.
3. Do not Be Jealous
“Love is not envious”
Every mother who truly loves, will not be jealous of her daughter-in-law because she is a child’s choice.
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The blindness of jealousy, motivated by envy tends to destroy the most precious good that a mother has always wanted to give her son, his happiness.
Unfortunately, jealousy walks side by side with envy, it will make a mother-in-law become the worst nightmare and make the life of the daughter-in-law miserable.
4. Do not be a gossip
“Do not treat with indecency”
Indecency within the context of 1 Corinthians 13 is about not acting without consideration, so it is important for a mother-in-law to remember this when speaking of her daughter-in-law because harsh words tend to hurt and kill love between families and consequences will affect all those involved in these family ties.
5. Not being proud
“Do not treat with levity”
A good mother will never let pride be greater than the love she has for her child, so she will welcome her daughter-in-law and support her when necessary.
Supporting means not bullying the child when he makes a decision that brings suffering to his marriage. A good mother and an honorable mother-in-law tend to offer help to the daughter-in-law and will also make the child aware of bad choices.
6. Do not be quarrelsome
Do not be angry
Every mother-in-law should control her anger. Sometimes the daughter-in-law can say or do something that hurts her mother-in-law or do things that bring suffering to her own home. Nonetheless, she as a mother-in-law and, above all, as a good and wise mother, must restrain her anger and try to bring peace to all, for she is the most mature person and also has experiences to solve these small disruptions that arise in families.
7. Do not be above
“Do not be arrogant”
It is very sad when I see a mother-in-law disapprove of her daughter-in-law because she believes that her son deserves a better person (his ex), even if the current partner only provides the best for her son.
When a good mother loves her son, she will also love and accept her choice, she will treat her daughter-in-law with humility, kindness, kindness, and love, as if she were a daughter because family is to be eternal and conflicts must be solved today.
8. Do not be mean
“Love is kind”
How sad to know that a mother destroyed her son’s marriage through evil, for if she says she loves her son so much, she must use kindness and love for him and his wife.
Healthy marriages have divergences because each couple has its own peculiarities, however, they differ from other couples because they are safe and settled and deal well with these marital differences. And no one should interfere or throb in this relationship, especially the mother-in-law.
Sogras, never, should never be false or rude to the daughters-in-law for the well-being of the whole family. Even if the mothers-in-law do not have much empathy for the daughters-in-law, they are obliged to respect them, for the true love they have for their children must suffice to cease these differences.
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