My mother is against my marital choice what should I do?
Hello,
I’m a graduate of business administration from UI and I’m 26 years old, from Ibadan, Oyo State. I am presently working with a reputable company in the state. Please, I need your advice concerning my marital life.
The guy I’m dating is a graduate, we work in the same company but he’s 4 years older than me. We’ve been in this relationship for one and a half year now.
The problem started the day I introduced him to my mother, though she pretended to have supported our relationship and even made the innocent guy felt comfortable. But she later called me and said she already have someone for me to marry. At first, I thought she was joking but she kept repeating it day by day.
The Issue now is the person she wanted me to marry is a married man of 45 years with 3 children. I don’t love this man and my mum and I have been on this issue for 6 months now.
She keeps insisting that I must marry this man. The only person I want is my boyfriend, we both love each other and we are already planning our future together.
When I share this with my friend, she advised me to leave home(my parents’ house) and stay with her but said I should not move to my boyfriend’s house. She said moving to my boyfriend’s house could be more dangerous.
But When I came across this site(Dailyfamily.ng) especially this section (Matters of the heart) last weekend, I decided to send in my issue with the belief to hear people’s opinion on it.
Friends, right now I,m confused and I don’t know what to do. Please, I need your advice
Omolewa, from Ibadan.
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5 comments
Hmmmmm….this is a serious issue. You have to be very wise, remember mother approval is very important. I will suggest you look for someone she so respect and ask the person elpyou beg her.
You better wake up from your sleep and follow your friend’s advise
I trust yoruba women, mama don take something. Girl run foryour dear life
I suggest you go back to your Creator for direction. Though, parental consent matters most in marriage. However, it’s not ideal for a mother to force her daughter to marry a married man who had three children already.
Please, go back to the Owner of your life
You took the words out of my mouth,