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Signs to watch out for in a right relationship

by O. S David
Signs to watch out for in a right relationship

Signs to watch out for in a right relationship

Finding the right partner can be challenging. Once you start dating someone, you should ask yourself important questions to determine whether such person is right for you or not. You should think about whether your share common values and interests, how you communicate, how he/she makes you feel, and whether he/she treats you with respect. Once you determine your priorities and evaluate your relationship, set some time aside to have a conversation with him/her about your future together.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, want to around them day and nigh, gist with them and hang out together to chat some funs and like their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with someone wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to  go extra mile,  engaged in some activities or do anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the hotness  of the love faded away.  It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Many relationship only get hotter and stronger within two years which is referred as” come on the high hill” and after two years it will turn to”come off the high hill”,  like diminishing return in ecommics.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the exitment  of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found. If you believe  the characters of your partner is bad and you think your character is the best why can you influence him with your good characters in other to change him/ her.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common,  many people cheat on their partner simply because their the relationship had come of the high hill while others turn it to work like chatting with ex on social network.But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. Why not, You could. And TEMPORARILY you will  feel better. But you will soon be in the same situation if you did not first work on yourself before bringing any person to your world.

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found. Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. and most importantly, it demands wisdom because wisdom is profitable to direct . You know what to do to keep the vehicle of the relationship moving at a jet speed.

Love is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe such as lae of gravity, there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is  a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always, Decision Determine  Destiny. The decision you take toward your marital life will determine the destination of the such matrimonial home: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.

Wrriten by:

Ayeotan Kehinde

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