SOLO SYNDROME: SIGNS THAT YOUR MARRIAGE IS FALLING APART
Bisi Adewale
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18 KJV).
Companionship is the number one reason God created marriage. In other words, fellowship, friendship, unity, oneness, togetherness and communion inform the reasons for marriage. When a couple is able to fulfill this, they fulfill the purpose of God for family life. But if this fails no matter the success the family thinks they have, it is a failure. But when a couple dwells together as one they send difficult marriage and shame away from their home.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashame” (Genesis 2:24-25 KJV).
The solo syndrome is the opposite of companionship in marriage. Hands are joined together but hearts are not. There is no unity in diversity.
Signs of solo syndrome in marriage
The following are signs that mark solo syndrome in a marriage:
1. Eating alone. Couples who eat separately are not friends.
2. Loneliness despite the presence of one’s spouse.
3. Failure to miss one’s spouse when he or she travels for two or three days.
4. Praying alone. When desire to pray together with your spouse dies, “solo syndrome” is already in your marriage.
5. Sleeping in different rooms. Couples should be in the same room and sleep on the same bed. Anything contrary to this is a sign that the roof is caving in, things are falling apart.
6. Living or staying apart in different places.
7. Desire to be left alone.
8. Absence of happiness, joy and excitement at the arrival of your spouse.
9. Desire to be with friends, neighbours or colleagues instead of one’s spouse.
10. Desire to be in the office during the weekends, public holidays or even at nights.
11. Constant arguments.
12. Failure to constantly pray for one’s spouse.
13. Bearing one’s burden alone without sharing it with one’s spouse.
14. Planning and executing projects alone without the contribution of the other partner.
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This is an eye opener, but truth is many of signs are common now in a lot marriage. A friend was sharing with me few days a go that he just finished a project and his wife is in the known. And I asked why, he said that is the only way he can keep his progress from being known to his extended family (self security).
Does this mean Solo syndrome?