Take a Look at the Number One Killer Of Every Marriage-Pastor Bisi Adewale
Pastor Bisi Adewale was speaking at the September edition of Breakthrough for Singles and Married which was tagged Just After You Say I Do.
The man of God while ministering spoke at length about the number one killer of every marriage which he said is DRIFTING. He explained that couples begin to drift apart immediately after they get married.
According to Pastor Bisi Adewale, there are three faces of Marriage which are
*Before you say I Do
*Just after you say I Do
*Long after you say I Do
Drifting in marriage was defined by Pastor Bisi Adewale as gradual or silent erosion of love in marriage making couples to depart from each other. Drifting when it gets to a level can generate offences, then conflict and then to a crisis.
Pastor Bisi Adewale gave solutions to this major problem all marriages are facing. He listed them as follows:
-Get intimate in marriage, don’t get familiar. Familiarity means knowing each other well with focus on weaknesses but Intimacy means knowing each other well based on assets.
-Know that you are not compatible with your spouse and you will never be compatible; manage it with the power of tolerance.
-Obey the law of Proximity which states that a husband and a wife must stay in the country, same state, same town, same street, same house, same room, same bed and under the same duvet.
-Obey the law of Intimacy. Proximity is not enough, you need to enter into the realm of intimacy where there is no secrecy but total openness.