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Thinking Strategy That Will Make Your Marriage Recover Fast

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Thinking Strategy That Will Make Your Marriage Recover Fast.

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-By Bisi Adewale

The state of your marriage and family life will depend solely on how you think about yourself, your spouse, your marriage, your in-laws, your future and every other thing around you. That is why you must think right always if your desire is a great result and if you want your marriage to recover fast.

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23 KJV



One of the most difficult situations to be handled by marriage counsellors is ‘wrong choice mind-set’. As soon as one of both people in a marriage believe they took a wrong decision in marrying each other, helping them will be very difficult. Until they can change their mind-set, they won’t be committed to change the habits and lifestyle that is hurting their marriage.



Marriage involves two. It’s not a solo, but a duet; and it’s not a lone journey but a community


Think of helping your spouse in every situation. Do not cast blame or castigate. Always be ready to be of help.



Have a thought that you married the best wife or husband. Think that your husband is having the best quality ever had by any man and that your wife is having the best quality no other woman possesses. If you must compare your spouse with anybody let your spouse always score the highest points.


Hear what King Solomon said about his queen:

“As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.” Song of Solomon 2:2 KJV

He saw his queen as a Lilly while other women were seen as thorns. What a wonderful view.

His queen on her part responded:

“As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” Song of Solomon 2:3 KJV

She saw her husband as an apple tree while other men may be mango trees or other trees

If you see your wife as Lily and all other women as thorns and the wife sees her husband as an apple tree and all other men as wood, there will be contentment in your marriage. Commitment to that marriage will be very high. Then verse 4 of that scripture will come to pass in your marriage as it becomes a banqueting house of love, joy and pleasure



Think that you are beautiful and good looking enough for your spouse. Don’t be intimidated by younger looking girls and enter into “jealous mode”, fearful and insecure, thereby affecting your marriage.



Think your spouse is a pillar in your life. This is very important to your existence, marriage and a better life. As soon as you begin to think your spouse is not a plus in your life, you begin to think his or her absence in your life does not really matter. Your commitment to your spouse and marriage begins to go down.




Think of the best way to serve your spouse, not about how to be served best.

Also, think you are getting the best service from your spouse that needs to be appreciated.



One thing that destroys marriage so easily is the issues of infidelity. Most people are not content as they do not believe they are getting the best from their marriage. So, they look for a “better deal” outside but hurt themselves in the process. Their marriage suffers,  their integrity gets stained and lives may be lost in the process.

Truly, there is no better deal outside your marriage. Great sex can be got in your marriage. It’s dangerous when you look elsewhere for it. The enjoyment that is in sex is just about eight seconds, no woman or man can give you more than that. So, get your eight seconds enjoyment and pleasure at home. See your wife as having the best breast, face and sexual skill to satisfy you.

If you feel there are things you want your spouse to do in bed that he or she is not doing, I will advise you get these two books for each other for a better understanding of marital sex: SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE and SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE HUSBAND.

Thinking Strategy That Will Make Your Marriage Recover Fast.

Also read:

How to Understand Your Partner’s Love Language

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