What To Do In Case You Hate Sex As A Couple
Marriage brings with it huge expectations – one of the greatest is a sexual activity with your spouse. But, what can happen if you hate sex?
If you were to talk to some marital therapist or marriage counselor, he would say that it is important not only to have emotional intimacy but also physical intimacy in your marriage.
Some wives get caught asking the question, “Do I really have to do this for the rest of my married life?
For those of you who shrink instead of running into the bedroom when your husband is well-disposed, here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable having sex:
Talk about it
This is an important tip when hating sex because sex involves two people – that is, you and your husband. If you do not tell him what you feel, he may think it has something to do with him, that you may not be attracted to him or angry at him for some reason.
Probably none of these are the case. Tell him that it has nothing to do with him and that you generally find him sympathetic and supportive.
Leave the preconceived notions aside
Movies, TV or some books will make sex seem like the most important thing in the world. This can make a person who does not find sex so nice if they feel abnormal and think there is something wrong with it. This is a lie.
Sex is meant to be an act of love between you and your husband; so if you’re apprehensive about it, his opinion is the only one you should be concerned about. Do not let other people or popular cultures make you feel even worse about something that already makes you insecure.
Find ways to “get in the mood”
For some women, it takes a lot of work to get into the weather. This refers to what has already been said: talk about it with your husband. Together, you can discuss what could make you feel more at ease, whether it’s a romantic dinner, hugging, talking to one another, or anything else that makes you more intimate.
In doing so, the chances of associating romantic thoughts with sex, rather than the physical act itself, will make you more receptive or at least more at ease.
Prepare yourself psychologically
It is possible that your thoughts will be a thousand when it comes to physical intimacy with your husband. Remember that sex between husband and wife is to make love and create life, and it is much more than just “duties of the wife” that you “have to fulfill.” So when the time comes, try to empty your mind and focus on the passion you feel for it.
Seek professional help
This is very important – especially for those who have found that they hate sex for physical or emotional reasons, such as finding sex that causes pain or having been abused in the past, etc.
Do not be afraid to seek a professional who can discover the main reason behind your lack of desire, if any. The good thing about the pros is that they know what they’re doing, and it’s something they’ve probably dealt with often enough to know how to help.
Sex is just one element of marriage, so make sure you focus on all the wonderful parts of being with your husband. Together, you can find ways to turn your hatred of sex into love.
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