Why Your Spouse May Not Appreciate You And What To Do
-Bisi Adewale
Ungratefulness, to me, is not the opposite word for gratefulness. Criticism is the height of ungratefulness. If you don’t have the habit of being grateful, you are likely going to end up with the spirit of criticism. Criticism is cancer in the body of any marriage. When criticism is abundant in any marriage, that home will be pathetic. If you don’t learn the habit of gratefulness, you may be making your marriage difficult. I Thessalonians 5:18
When criticism grows, it comes along with contempt. When criticism is mixed with contempt it can easily send any marriage to its grave.
Below are the reasons your spouse may not appreciate you:
- “It-is-his or her-duty” syndrome. When you have the “at-least-he-or-she-is-just-doing-his-or-her-duty” mentality, you will never be grateful. What if he or she refuses to do his or her duty? What will you do? Appreciate your mate even if you know that what he or she is doing is his or her duty. At least we are all paid salaries and wages for doing our duties. Your spouse’s wages is appreciation.
- “My right” mental attitude. Many people will never say ‘thank you’ because they believe that what their spouse does for them is their right. Yes, it may be your right but you may be denied the right. Appreciate your spouse for giving you your right. It is very important. It is your right to breathe and be in good health but we know that many people are not privileged to have this right. That is why we always thank God for keeping us alive and in good health.
- It would have been done better. Yes, it would have been done better, but appreciate the one you get now. In fact, your appreciation will make him or her to do it better.
What to appreciate
– Your spouse’s stature
– Your spouse abilities
– Your spouse’s spiritual growth
– Provision
– Support
– Your wife’s cooking
– Your wife’s beauty
– Good sexual performance
– For loving you
– Appreciate your spouse for everything.
