A Nigerian man, Ebikedoumene Bonny Jeff, has expressed grief and pain over the end of his marriage, announcing it in a Facebook post on Saturday, August 8, 2026, their 5th wedding anniversary.
Jeff said his love story with Yinlayefa began in their village in 2008.
‘Life is a mystery: my love story so far... In 2008 i and my wife (Yinlayefa started dating in d village, everything was moving perfect. The love, the affection, the understanding. Very humble, so caring. She was a woman every man wish to marry. She was a wife material, very Sweet woman to be with,’ he wrote.
She gave birth to their daughter in 2011, and six months later he entered the university.
‘So 2011 she gave me my priceless. After six month I left dem for school and she was taking care of my daughter in the village,’ he said.
He said he was later advised to relocate to Yenagoa.
‘After my year two second semester, she advised me not to come home again. That I should pay house at Yenagoa and I did so. We both moved to Yenagoa from the village and I always visited her every two weeks. We were full of life in the relationship,’ he said.
Jeff graduated in 2015 but remained jobless until 2019.
During that period, he said, Yinlayefa got a job at the Federal University Otueke and supported him.
‘In 2015 I finished school & she got a job at Federal University, Otueke and she started taking care of the house (me & my priceless), paying all the bills, praying church to church for me to succeed in life with my credentials,’ he said.
He said he eventually got a job, and they got married on August 8, 2021, but his wife's pregnancy soon after their wedding ended in the child's death, marking the start of trouble in the marriage.
‘In 2019, I finally got a job and we got married (August 8 2021). Immediately after the marriage she took in but unfortunately the child d!ed and everything in my marriage start getting unidentified issues,’ he said.
He listed the issues that followed, including forcing his wife to abort three pregnancies and his infidelity, which she could not forgive.
‘What are the issues I caused in the marriage? (1) she took in up to three times while i was in school and I asked her to remove dem bco life was not fair to m (2) I mistakenly follow another woman to her notice & she vowed not to forgive me in life,’ he said.
He said his efforts to be forgiven failed, and the marriage deteriorated as his wife withdrew love and support and threatened to take her life and his.
‘I begged her to forgive m for years but she refused....so its leads to no love, no affection, no submission, no support system as a wife. Punishment everyday and night. Nothing was working, the silence battle, she wanted to take her owned life,’ he said.
He added: ‘She no longer love me. 'I will k!ll u & kill mysef' These are strong words coming out from my wife's mouth in daily basis, etc in d house for years till 2026.’
Jeff said they mutually agreed to separate, on what would have been their 5th wedding anniversary.
‘Today supposed to be our 5th marriage anniversary but we choose separation for future life. Nobody should d!e because of marriage & both parties are happy. Marriage is not a do or d!e affair. I pray for you today. May God almighty always protect & guild you, reward you plenty for all d sacrifices you have sacrificed in my life,’ he wrote.
He acknowledged her sacrifices and said she would always be his hero.
‘You ll always be my Hero in my life time. My woman of my youth is no more with m together but life goes on. Today I am just left with memories. In the year 2026 all my efforts to build a family was shattered!!!,’ he wrote.
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