Marital Wahala

Honestly, it’s not as simple as “men lose interest.” After 1–2 children, life changes, drastically. Sleep disappears. Bills multiply. Work stress increases. Conversations turn into school fees, food, and survival. Somewhere along the line, romance quietly takes a back seat. Many men don’t stop loving their wives; they just don’t know how to connect anymore. Some stop seeing their wives as lovers and start seeing only the “mother of my children.” On the other side, many women are exhausted, touched out, insecure about body changes, and emotionally drained—but nobody really talks about it. So sex suffers. Not because children ruined anything, but because intimacy needs energy, safety, and effort. When couples stop checking in, stop flirting, stop resting, and stop choosing each other intentionally, desire naturally fades. The truth? Kids don’t end sex lives. Silence, stress, and neglect do.