Marriage & Relationships

Imagine if this lady was your girlfriend: 1. She's aged 28 2 A single mother whose baby is 6yrs of age 3. Her parents are divorced and have moved on with their lives afterwards. The man is remarried and same with the woman. 4. She wears legchain, Nose ring and waist beads. 5. Partially beautiful, but not educated enough. She first lied she had an ND until I began to probe into her claim and noticed she didn't go beyond secondary education. Her attitude and behaviour made me doubt her claim in the first place. You're chatting in proper English and she's replying with Pidgin all through. 6. Lies a lot. Even about the simplest things. Needless lies. She fell sick at some point, lied to me it was Malaria and Fever after doing a test. Same moment, while she held her phone and was on Facebook, she had initially asked A.I about ABORTION pills. This got me worried. I confronted her, she said it was her friend who used her phone to type that shit on Facebook A.I. I requested for her friend's number, inquired about same and her friend denied it. Before this discovery, she was sick and throwing saliva everywhere and I jokingly asked if she was pregnant( I hadn't slept with her at this point in the relationship since we were just a month or two into it). Same friend of hers had even asked her same question about if she was pregnant. She lied against her friend. Left with no other alternative, she came up with another story, claiming that she did family planning. And she was suffering from the impact of same family planning, reason for her health situation at the time. How can a single lady be doing family planning? I asked if she was a hookup girl. She denied. She did the family planning because of her ex boyfriend since they were knackiing raw. I then asked, is your ex aware of this family planning? She said No. Is he aware that you're sick as a result of the family planning u did because of him? She said No. So now, how do you date a guy, you did family planning just because of him, yet he isn't aware?. You're even sick as a result, and he is not aware. What if you die? In my mind, I believe she did an Abortion too. 7. I can't touch this lady's phone. She wouldn't even drop it for a second as long as we are together. She won't also take her calls. At some point I got worried and I asked her to pick those calls right in my presence, but she refused. After her refusal to pick, I wanted to see who the caller was as the phone was ringing, but she didn't allow me. I didn't want to drag with her, so I kept my cool. 8. The first day I asked her out, I got home, we began chatting, and she started telling me that she was Hungry. Ah! I wanted to cut her off immediately, but I decided not to. Since then, it's being one complain or the other. I do all I can for her, not because of anything, but for humanity sakes. However, I must meet the needs of my loved ones and close male friends before I can meet hers. I've only had sex with her once(Three rounds) and since then, I've just being indifferent towards her. 9. She doesn't take corrections at all. 10. One more thing she does that breaks me is her constant plea for help on her WhatsApp status. For instance, she will post a picture of a gown on her status and say "Babe pls buy this for me" Again, she will write, "Christmas dey come and my babe never ask me wetin I want for Christmas. Babe Naso" ? So many of such. But I wouldn't reply to her status after viewing. She will then msg me directly and ask for those things. 11. Her mum remarried and she's in another State with the husband. Yesterday, she called me asking me for some money to send to her mum to buy drugs. I was shocked. Where is her husband? I didn't have and I told her straight up. Before she Made this request, earlier same day, she had told me she would be going to the market to buy a few things for herself. I said ok. Later she came up with the request of 10k to send to her mum for drugs. Sincerely I didn't have to give her, if I had, I would gladly help. After all, I do more than that for her and even her friend. I then asked that she takes out of that money she intended using to buy things from the market and send to her mum for drugs since her health was more important. But she came up with another story. She said she does contribution of 5k monthly and that it was her turn to get hers. But she hasn't being given yet. She will be given the next day. So it's not like she has the money available yet. But u sounded so sure of going to the market as if u already had the money In your possession. 12. Why is she living in her friend's house? Her friend is married with two kids and living in a two bedroom apartment with some other relatives. What is my babe doing there for God's sakes? She has her own apartment according to her. I've not being to her house before. So why can't she stay in her own place and give this couple some privacy?. She will close from work and go there. Stats there for weeks and not check her own house. It's really strange to me. I'm tired of the whole thing honestly. Though, my mind don commot from her matter. Just want to be piping her . We don't have a future together. If you take this girl out and you guys are talking, she's always carried away by the loud Music there, she will start singing and dancing while we are talking. She'll tell u she's listening.. Lastly, I asked about her baby's father and she got really very aggressive with me. She said I should never ask her about the guy. That the guy absconded when he learnt about the pregnancy. In fact he denied the pregnancy. And the family of the guy do not care about the child. I asked if she knows the location(State, town or Local government area) of the guy, and she said NO. But how is it possible for her not to have heard anything about the location of the guy? Is that possible? Mind you, they were mates in secondary sch and started knackiing until they both graduated. So how is it possible that none of their ex school mates can tell where he is? His family members too ? She claimed to have deleted the guys number from her phone. She lies a lot so I don't even believe this part of her story. I suspect the guy is even around and still pipping her. I asked again, do you mean that since you have birth to your daughter, the father hasn't seen her? She hasn't answered me yet. This is just too much for me to take. Her parents failed in parenting. She doesn't even have a blood sibling. She only has step siblings.