9 Signs That Your Marriage Need Urgent Attention
-Bisi Adewale
Many people’s marriage is in the hospital’s emergency ward without their knowledge. This kinds of marriage need urgent attention else the worst will happen. Sometimes, we do have a fake assessment of our marriage. Some think their marriages are
doing very great, but the truth is their marriages are very poor and not progressive.
Here let us examine nine signs that your marriage need urgent attention:
- YOU GO TO BED AT DIFFERENT TIMES
One simple thing, but very important, is the couple lying down to sleep together. You may
have different work schedules and studies, but it is worth struggling to maintain this habit.
Sometimes the day is so tumultuous, that the only time the couple has to stay together, to
know how each other’s day was, to hug and caress each other is bedtime. And it’s so good
to sleep together with the loved one!
- YOU LOVE YOUR JOBS MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
This is a bad habit. Your job comes first in your heart and you don’t care whatever happens
to your spouse. You never remember that you will leave that office one day, no matter how
good you are on the job.
- YOU HAVE TWO FACES
You are your best when at work laughing, jesting, and making everybody happy. However,
you are something else at home. If your children take cover whenever you arrive at your
home, it’s a sign that your marriage is not great.
- YOU SLEEP IN DIFFERENT ROOMS
You have Daddy’s and Mummy’s room. You don’t sleep in the same room. No matter your
reasons for it something is just not right in your marriage.
- YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE
It is common to see parents putting their children first in all situations, and loving them
more than their spouse. This behaviour does not seem wrong, does it? But the truth is that
this weakens marriage in a gigantic way.
At first, it was just the both of you. You both courted and married each other eventually.
You were the most important people to each other. Then came the children, they grew up,
and then started their own families too. This is how it shall be from generation to
generation
The most important union we make in this life is in marriage. Your spouse should be the
most important person to you. Your children are the fruits of your love, and in order for the
fruits to grow and remain good, love must be nourished. When your children get married, it
will be you and your spouse again, just as it was in the beginning.
6.YOU REPORT YOUR SPOUSE TO OUTSIDERS
You have this bad attitude of reporting your spouse to every dick and harry that cares to
listen. While it’s a sign of immaturity, it’s also a sign that something is wrong with your
marriage
- YOU LUST AFTER OTHER MEN OR WOMEN
To you, other women or men are better than your spouse. Some even imagine sleeping with
other people out there thinking they are by far better than their spouses
- YOU ARE NOT LOYAL TO EACH OTHER
Many husbands and wives are not loyal to each other. They talk ills of each other when
their spouses are not there, but pretend all is well when they see each other. They do many
things at the back of each other that are really bad but cover it up with fake care and love.
- YOU DON’T GIVE SEX A PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
When sex is not given its rightful place in marriage, it is a sign something terrible is
happening in that home. Sex is the lubricant of marriage; sex is the cement of matrimony.
When it becomes a chore or source of discord in a marriage, it’s a sign that something is
really wrong
