3 Mindsets That Destroy Appreciation In Marriage
–By Bisi Adewale
Appreciation foster unity and multiply joy while lack of it may tend towards ungratefulness and criticism. Both husband and wife must learn how to appreciate one another for the act of kindness to continue in that marriage.
Below are 3 mindsets that destroy appreciation in marriage
- “It-is-his or her-duty” syndrome. When you have the “at-least-he-or-she-is-just-doing-his-or-her-duty” mentality, you will never be grateful. What if he or she refuses to do his or her duty? What will you do? Appreciate your mate even if you know that what he or she is doing is his or her duty. At least we are all paid salaries and wages for doing our duties. Your spouse’s wages is appreciation.
- “My right” mental attitude. Many people will never say ‘thank you’ because they believe that what their spouse does for them is their right. Yes, it may be your right but you may be denied the right. Appreciate your spouse for giving you your right. It is very important. It is your right to breathe and be in good health but we know that many people are not privileged to have this right. That is why we always thank God for keeping us alive and in good health.
- It would have been done better. Yes, it would have been done better, but appreciate the one you get now. In fact, your appreciation will make him or her to do it better.
What to appreciate
– Your spouse’s stature
– Your spouse abilities
– Your spouse’s spiritual growth
– Provision
– Support
– Your wife’s cooking
– Your wife’s beauty
– Good sexual performance
– For loving you
– Appreciate your spouse for everything.
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